Week five

This blog is on par with football season...I just realized that! haha

This week I want to talk about complaining in relationships. I have been in a committed relationship with my boyfriend for about a year and a half now, and we have been living together since this past August. Now, while we generally get along great, we have butted heads on more than one occasion. Most often, our problems stem from me wanting to plan ahead and him wanting to take things day by day. Just this past weekend, we had a disagreement stemming from this. Instead of lashing out and complaining to him about it like I normally would, I walked away and thought about it. When there's a disagreement, generally one person wants something one way and the other wants it another way. So, in order to come up with a solution, one person may have to sacrifice. I often fight to the death in these situations so that I don't have to sacrifice...or I do sacrifice, but I don't let it go for the rest of the day. This weekend I tried a different approach - sacrificing/being a little more lenient on my end and getting over it more quickly so we could go on with our day. It felt so much better! In the past, I knew complaining about it never made it better, but I guess I just wanted him to feel guilty. This weekend, he probably still felt a little guilty, but he also felt thankful and I got major girlfriend points (he's taking me out to dinner next weekend). Besides this weekend, I have been able to stop myself from little complaints or nagging in my relationship, and I feel I have really reaped the benefits. Even though we've had the big change of living together the past few months, our relationship has never been better. And on those days where he does something that bothers me or is not that considerate, I am still able to think about how great he is all the other days. No one can be perfect all the time!